after a LOT of tweaking and fiddling with gtk, plasma, aurorae, kvantum themes and color schemes i finally managed to get both gtk and kde apps looks like i want it, and most importantly make both gtk and kde looks the same (apart from the csd's) - and i got plasma looking pretty much to what im used to form gnome. even got gimp looking like the rest
note:console for some reason displays displays the wrong plasma theme, its really a mod of the adapta plasma theme
full 3440x1440 here