BitTim8 would you recommend kde or XFCE
Sorry for jumping in, but I've been sold on KDE for a long time. My first DE was Budgie, because I believed the "flagship" hype. But when I tried Plasma, I've never been tempted to return.
I just want to point out that Plasma is not based on the GNOME stack, as Budgie, GNOME and Xfce are. If you're unhappy about the behavior of one GNOME-based DE, you might have better luck trying one that's not based on the same stack. Many things work the same way on them all.
Plasma offers, I believe, the best Wayland experience. I maintain a set of VMs repsenting all four available DEs, so I'm pretty familiar with them all. But my daily driver laptop has run on Plasma for years.