im silly. had to make the folder first.
So the steps would be
sudo mkdir /etc/modprobe.d/
sudo nano /etc/modprobe.d/bbswitch.conf and write next: options bbswitch load_state=0 unload_state=1
And then create /etc/modules-load.d/bbswitch.conf and write: bbswitch
after a reboot
sudo dmesg | grep bbswitch
should say bbswitch: Succesfully loaded. Discrete card 0000:01:00.0 is off